Passing the exams is an event, undoubtedly important, but it does not exactly affect the future life of the former student. Psychologists, combining their efforts, helped the parents and students keep their balance all year long in order to pass this test with the least emotional loss.
Even if you are not prone to anxiety and agitation by nature, you can fall under the emotional tide of other parents and teachers. Try to stay away from anxious moms and teachers who think in terms of "now or never". Try to switch yourself and the child to what will balance it and your condition. No matter how trite it sounds, go to the cinema with him or take him where he was once good and calm. Give other emotions and impressions affect you. Consider that the teachers have done the job of forcing the situation for you.
The exam, like any event-dependent event, has an effect that narrows the mind. Even if we were at first quite calm and understood that success in life is not guaranteed only by a successful surrender, then the further, the more we rest on the idea that a successful result is simply necessary. Otherwise ... Indeed, what else? Here we have the risk to start thinking quite magically: do not enter the university, we can not find a good job. The list can be continued, but in any case life will not work out. So an event that is already important and responsible is swelling in our minds, becoming directly life-defining. It's clear that here both our anxiety and the anxiety of the child increase many times. Try to still reduce in your mind the significance of the upcoming examination to normal life scales. For example, sit down and make a list of what measures can be taken in case of failure. Retake, something else. It is important to outline in your mind clear and concrete real prospects. If you are a parent, you can compile a second list - a list of events and meetings in your life that have influenced the fact that good work has been found, wages and so on. If you read carefully, you will see that the results of the exams are rather arbitrary, and success and satisfaction from life depend on many other factors.
It is important to understand that the exam itself is not only a situation of assessing certain skills and knowledge. The delivery of the Unified State Examination and the OGE is also the completion of an important stage of life (graduation from school or transition to an advanced school), preparation for a new stage. In a sense, exams are a kind of symbolic action, signifying completion, drawing a line. This "completion" can give rise to many different feelings - beginning with sadness and ending with anxiety before the future. Often these emotions are unpleasant to experience, and then we supersede them. In their place a void is formed, which we successfully fill with anxiety and stress in front of the exams. Consider exams a bit wider than usual. Talk to the child more, remember how it all began: the first bell, the first class, the transition to secondary school, joyful and sad. Look at old photos, share memories. Leave for this place in the daily preparation for the examination, and the hassle from waiting for the exam will be less.
Often we confuse in our minds such concepts as "I" and "my value", the significance, dignity and result of the exam. Here lies one very important phenomenon. We perceive the result of some test as a result of ourselves. That is, the result itself seems to be like us. And this is a big mistake of perception. Putting the equal sign between a high score on the exams and the value of one's own self, equating the number of points to the index of your mental and creative abilities, we begin to treat ourselves very functionally. With this way of thinking, we lose sight of all the complexity, complexity and uniqueness of our personality. Try to remind yourself as often as possible that the result of the exam is not the "I". What indicators were achieved within a few hours of writing the Examinations is just the totality of the work of our mental processes. Memory, attention, thinking - in conditions of increased (which is not unimportant) stress. And nothing else. The score for the exam does not accurately reflect the fullness of personality and creative and mental abilities. "I" is much broader and more versatile than some abstract figure obtained as a result.
It also happens that the level of anxiety before the exam goes off scale, the appetite, sleep disappears, and it is not possible to think about anything other than the upcoming test. Here you need to understand the peculiarities of experiencing anxiety. According to its physiological signs, anxiety and mental arousal (energy increase) are very similar: the heart is becoming more frequent